Tuesday, February 17, 2026

Traveling to England from France with the Ferry is Cheap, Fast and Easy Also a 4 Day Itinerary in South East England

Welcome to The Cherry On Top.

We just returned from England, yesterday. My husband surprised me with the trip for my birthday. I knew we were going somewhere, but I didn't know where. I know, right?! I wanted to jump right in here and blog all about it while it is still fresh in my head and because we were all really surprised how smooth and easy the trip was with the ferry.

Irish Ferries
No, the dog wasn't crazy about being on the boat.

We live in East Flanders, Belgium. It took us just about 2 hours to get to Calais where we embarked on our adventure to England. The hubs and I have been to England plenty of times, but it was the first time for our boys and they really enjoyed it.

We did travel with a dog which is actually a royal pain in the ass. If you can ferry without a dog, it will save you hassle. However, if the thought of leaving your pooch at home or with someone else is not an option, you're set. Dogs were not only allowed in a lot of places we went in England, they were welcome. This was new to us. I don't remember it being like that before, but I've never really been into dogs and never traveled to England with one. 

People in England, at least the south east part, love dogs. We had to stop continuously and talk with people about our dog or ours and theirs. It was odd. I even found myself dreaming about dogs. Hehehe...It was endearing and really great to have our furry family member receive so much attention.

Back to the ferry and dogs. You'll need special papers from the vet and unfortunately required and up to date vaccinations. Ugh! I didn't realize that dogs could make people sick? Anyway...You need a kind of doggy passport, the chip in the neck and ya have to pay extra. Even if they just stay in the car. If you take them aboard, they can only be in one area and it is the coldest, most uncomfortable area of the ferry. At least with Irish Ferries. (I still get a giggle out of that one.)

The staff aboard the ship that deal with passengers are very, very nice. I forgot how awesome it was to be completely surrounded by English and the English language. What a relief! After more than 20 years on the mainland of Europe, I didn't realize that I'd feel that way. Anyway...

Where the dogs are not, the ferry is very comfortable. There are loads of places to sit in between the many international truck drivers and handful of others. These days, it might not be appropriate to mention, but if I want to be thorough, I do feel it is important to mention that the ferry was full of men from the trucks. That being said, I never felt uncomfortable or had any inappropriate situation of any kind and there is always staff in the area. I would not let this deter me even if I were traveling alone. Just a thought for young, single ladies. Unless, you're looking for that kind of thing. wink wink

The time of travel was winter. I'm sure it's busier in the warmer, summer season. There are vending machines, games, a playground for the little ones, restaurant, faster foods, restrooms and more. There were sleeping chambers and even showers. Most convenient! A tax free shop was available with booze, chocolate, perfume and other pricey unnecessaries. It's not a "regular" kind of shop.

Perhaps it would be ideal to take you step by step through the process? My hubs was a bit concerned because we never took the car and a ferry on an international trip. It was a breeze, y'all! We were so relieved at how easy and fast we were in England.

So, he ordered and arranged everything online, including the doggo, our passports and important to note, you need an ETA (Electronic Travel Authorization)in England which for an old fart like me, really really sucks. I'm so disgusted with the English government, but I guess they are just the trailer for what's to come to Europe? Again, I digress. Besides the paper passports you also need this kind of electronic permission slip as well. Tell that to the lads arriving on rubber boats with no documentation at all. 

Most major ports have signage on the main roads. Simply follow them in. The directions in the port where clear to the point of ridiculous. That's how easy it is. I'd say the same about driving in England. The redundancy of travel directions, rules, where exactly and how fast to drive can help even the worst, most simple minded drivers. Hehehe...I suppose it could be considered as "helpful" or perhaps even polite? Don't worry too much about driving on the "wrong" side. Hehehe...

Speaking of polite, most of the people we encountered were the nicest most friendliest people I've ever met. Rather refreshing after over 2 decades of my current region. I felt lighter and my chest was filled with warm joy that we all seemed to share with each other. Weird! But lovely.

Ya have to arrive at the port much earlier than the departure hour. I believe it's an hour early and an hour and a half if you have a dog. They thoroughly check your canine's papers and zap the chip. Put on your patient hat and be ready for it. Follow all the signs through the port and the number the staff gives you. That number is for the aisle you park your car for the wait before entering the ferry. We watched a TV show while we waited and the kids gamed (in the car). Our ship was at least a half hour late. There are places to pee on the port, but I wasn't so keen on going myself, as a woman. It was a touch chaotic with all of the trucks, cars and other forms of transportation and all of the men. 

If I had to do it all again, I'd definitely bring a really good snack or small meal and a bottle of wine and glasses or a six pack of beer. The prices on the ferry are way up there and as you might imagine, the quality does not reflect that. We didn't go to the restaurant. We just grabbed some warm pastry things and bottled drinks. The pastries were around 8 pounds each. The bottle of Italian beer, just under 7 pounds. It certainly was a great convenience.

When it is time to board the ferry, clearly identifiable staff will direct you where to go. Again, just follow their directions or the vehicle in front of you and board the ferry. Turn the car off, engage the emergency brake, exit and lock your vehicle taking only necessary items with you. You'll have to go up some stairs. There should be plenty of people to follow. All the "floors" or levels of the ferry are clearly marked. I left my jacket and purse in the car and just took my small bag of snacks and drinks.

The ride over is 90 minutes. That's Calais to Dover. Our ferry ride was very smooth. We hardly felt anything. The weather was typically abysmal for both routes, but the drive remained exceedingly smooth and I'm just a touch receptive to motion sickness.

You'll hear an announcement when the ferry is ready to leave port and of course, another when it's arriving to port. Gather your things and follow the masses back down to your vehicle when instructed via intercom. Don't turn your car on until the one in front of you starts leaving. Finding your way out is even easier than in. Follow the masses and those signs with the image of a car if that's what you are driving.

We did not have to stop for any kind of checks on our return from England, but we did have to stop for a quick check in the trunk on the way over to Dover and had to reprimand a cheeky guard trying to pinch a bottle of bubbles. Most of the staff on both ports spoke English. The stereotypical "rude" French were full in effect whilst the Brits radiated with kindness. Go figure?!

OK! So, we had four days on our trip. We left Calais in the late afternoon and arrived in Dover in the rainy dark. I would have not planned the trip this way. Consider starting bright and early and having a nice, full afternoon in England. Think of that on your return as well or if you don't mind driving in the dark in France and or perhaps on your familiar ride home. If you know the return well, you may want to spend that last day savoring England. We left around 5 pm English time which gave us a few hours to explore more of the south east.

I'll share our experience and maybe you'll consider doing something similar? This way you won't have to do all of the hours of planning like the hubs had to. 

Arrive in England in the early afternoon if possible and consider driving immediately to your place of accommodation so you can scout it out? We stayed in Herne Bay. It's very quiet and small, though it is compact. You can tickle your neighbor's arm pit whilst they shower, through the window of your place. Hehehe...Our BnB was great. It did take me a bit of figuring out with some things, but once sorted like smells and noises and the cold, it was great. 

Herne Bay Pier
The Pier in Herne Bay

If you're not much of a walker, then you will definitely need a car for this area. We were on the second line. So, in just a few meters we were walking on stones and shells. There are no sandy beaches here. FYI.

seaside travel in the uk
I was nearly blown over by the wind. Wear the right clothes!

The only thing close by or easy walking distance was a fantastic pub with food. We went three times! The staff at the Hampton Inn were so nice. The food was, wow! The prices were quite ok. There were daily specials and excellent menu items to choose from. It was hard choosing. Make reservations if you can. I liked all the beer on tap and would highly recommend the fish pie. Dogs are treated better than people hehehehe...Just joking! There are a lot of dogs coming in and out. Keep that in mind if you've a dog. Most of the time, the dogs were very well behaved. Not at all a bother. Our bill for 4, was around 100 pounds and that includes quite some drinks for the four of us. We pay that much around Europe as well. This really was the standard price all around England.

Hampton Inn Herne Bay
Awesome eats at the Hampton Inn.

If you don't mind a bit of a walk, you can walk to the local, small shop. We were very impressed! They had everything we needed and even a bit of fresh fruit and veg. The guy behind the counter even tried helping a little bitty with some road directions. You can check out the pier and huge games arcade. It's a bit like going to the Jersey Shore. So, it brought back some memories. There is a boardwalk, tiny cabin shops and lots of goodies for the kiddies. There's a tiny garden along the beach and plenty of shops, playgrounds and cafes in the area. I wasn't super crazy about the town and was fairly appalled at the state of the larger grocery shops. I would highly recommend the area for kids and teens.

The next, full day we went to Canteburry (about 20 minutes drive). To say the least, it has changed. As has most places, I guess. Tell me if ya feel me, but when you go out of your way to visit a very, very, very, very old, English village you want to see old, English stuff? The market was much too, international. Boring! Leave that kind of thing for the larger towns, please. As you may have deduced, we did bother with the cathedral, but it would have cost us nearly 100 pounds for all of us to go in! Are you kidding me? As a spiritual person, it is rather upsetting to have to pay to go to church. Especially that much. Actually, we were super disgusted that we had to pay for everything. And I mean everything. Don't even think about parking anywhere for free or cheap. Plan on dropping at least 15 pounds a day for parking. Keep that in mind if you are looking for a place to stay, too. Our place had a driveway. Thank goodness!

the library in Canterbury
Find some great architecture in Canterbury amongst the shops.

We had a great time at The Shakespeare. Now, this was the kind of place we were looking for. Super old, cozy, conveniently located, pets welcome and super nice, staff. My son had a fabulous looking fish sandwich and the three of us shared the Smoke House Platter. That was totally my thing. Loaded fries, jalapeno poppers, wings, chicken nuggets, onion rings. Delicious! I haven't delighted in many of those for over 20 years.

good eats in Canterbury
Just look at the platter of awesome! No! Not me, silly!

We were all a bit underwhelmed with Canterbury, but at the same time, glad we went. There are a lot of shops and if you're into any kind of older architecture, you'll be delighted. I can't believe people live in such tiny homes! You can easily spend an entire afternoon in Canterbury. Travel one way there and another back? This way you can see a touch of the country side. Though also a bit underwhelming. The roads are really quite horrendous and despite a country prone to much precipitation, there seemed to be little to no sewers? I wonder how often the litter is cleaned up from the street sides as well? Travel in the dark and you won't even notice. Hehehe...

Cathedral in Canterbury
Us poor folk can look from the outside. You can't even walk around the gardens without paying.

Our third day was a bit of a bust. It was Valentine's Day and by a miracle of God, the sun actually appeared, briefly. So everyone and their uncle was out in Whitstable. I have no idea how to pronounce that. I would have loved to have asked. Whitstable was pretty darn cute. We drove and drove and drove all around the village and could not get an empty parking spot. I can't even begin to imagine what it would be like in summer!? The hubs was totally put off by this and was not at all pleased with Plan B the pier, shopping and arcade in Herne Bay. I was glad to see the pier did have a few things open in winter.

things to do in Herne Bay
I'm sure this place is hopping in the summer. 

Personally, I found Whitstable way too overcrowded. They didn't' have any pedestrian streets which is a shame. We actually toured it quickly through a freezing cold down pour on our way over to the Dover Ferry and back to France. There are adorable, little mom and pop shops and super cute, old time, seaside architecture. It is mega touristy, though. Even in the heart of winter and torrential rains. Again, get ready to pay to park. Even when the place is nearly empty. We had breakfast at Farm & Harper and hated it. They put us upstairs where it was absolutely freezing. This, after coming out of the freezing rain?! They served hot drinks in plastic cups. There were a lot of young people there which our boys didn't seem to mind, but if you're looking for cozy and quality, this is not the place. That being said, there are a lot of alternatives.

chilham, england
Have a gander 'round Chilham.

On your last day in England and on your way back to the Dover Ferry, you could visit Chilham Village. Do not go to this village if old, tudor buildings and fachwerk are not your thing. If you cringe at the thought of an old, tiny village surrounded by woods and a vibe of time standing still or even throwing you back a few hundred years, this is not the place for you. This is the kind of place I just love visiting.

the white horse in chilham england
The picture perfect old pub in Chilham.

Enjoy the pint of your choice or a 'cuppa in The White Horse in Chilham. It's exactly how you might imagine an old English pub to be and then some.

Chilham is just a short drive from Herne Bay and from Chilham you can quickly visit the White Cliffs and the huge fort atop of the cliffs in Dover. We found parking and a restaurant called the Coast Guard where we had drinks and considered a meal, but were too slow to decide before we needed to leave to catch our ferry.

the coast guard pub

You'll love the views from The Coast Guard. Even in the torrential downpours. You could pop to Dover center if you've time. We just drove around a bit and were not really thrilled at what we saw. So, we motored on to the ferry for an even easier crossing than the one from Calais.

Overall, everyone enjoyed the trip, but we all prefer European and American travel. Just say'n! We would all totally go back and try another trip around a different area. Cornwall is on our short list. As is Scotland and maybe a cruise from Calais to Ireland? I just wanted to pop in and share the idea of a long weekend trip from France to England with a ferry. The entire trip was just skirting around 1,000 Euros for four people and a dog. That includes everything. So you see, it's really quick, easy and somewhat affordable. The train was way too expensive for the five of us.

Have you been to England? Did you have a good time? What are your future travel plans? Maybe we'll all get some ideas from your comments.

I hope you've found this entry on ferry travel and travel in south east England of value if not entertaining. 

I do plan on scrapping our photos in a quick printable, travel journal like this one here. We'll see if I can whip up a free design for our scrappy fans.


quick and easy travel journal printable

Thanks for stopping by The Cherry. 




Monday, February 16, 2026

You Need To Start Yoga and Meditation Today to Help Relieve Stress, Anxiety, Depression and Much More

Welcome to The Cherry On Top.

Continuing right along with ways to improve your mental and physical health. Actually, now that I think of it, I never mentioned diet. These darn brain farts are getting pretty epic. Hehehe...I'll make sure I address that after doing a little more research because it is rather scientific. I know a lot of seed oils are disastrous for health and processed foods can contain "ingredients" that affect hormones which can mess with mood as well as our biological bodies. Start cutting out seed oils and processed food. START! It takes a lot of time to ditch them entirely, but you can do it! Nearly every packaged item and restaurant food contains some form of seed oil and often a synthetic sweetener of some kind.

I have friends (I know, right?!) that have lost 30 pounds just by stopping drinking soft drinks. Isn't that crazy? Start off by choosing one thing. Then, take something else away. If you eat frozen pizzas every week. Eat one every other week and then once a month. Take baby steps. Soon you'll find yourself not craving the junk. Promise! You can have a little bit of processed food here and there. Just don't let them take over your entire menu.

I'm one of those people that are standing in the aisle, probably blocking something you want, scanning over the ingredients. I buy at least 80% fresh food (maybe more) in the form of raw milk products from our local farmer, organic fruit and veg also from local farmers and all our meat come from neighborhood butchers. If you can control yourself, don't buy junk and if you or the kids just have to have junk, try not to eat it everyday. That's the key. Give your body some time to detox, right? Go one day and eat whole food only and work your way up to everyday, but get to the point where you consume as little "fake" processed foods, and seed oils as possible. Limit those darn sugars and sweets, too. If it's in a package (especially plastic) it probably isn't whole, nutritious food.

Take your time. Read recipes. Do things so you enjoy the cooking and the planning process. I've already blogged all about this. You can read about menu planning, here. Following my year long, Weekly Menu Planners would be a great start. 

I digress! Back to the continuation of curing yourself of depression and anxiety. Many of these suggestions would be great for anyone. Any age. I started the series, here. The second is here. I give tips for people living with people with anxiety. The last installation is here where I talk a lot about mindfulness. If you're not familiar with it, you have to go back and read and learn. Your life will change for the better, immediately. I can even promise that. wink wink

I've been doing yoga for just over 2 years. I didn't want to in the beginning. I was a body builder. I had mega crazy energy and I'm kind of a spazzoid. Meditation and yoga does not come easy for me, at all. I'm like a little kid in class! I fidget, giggle, laugh and find it very difficult to chill. I do yoga with the seniors in the village and it's not very challenging, to say the least, but I think that's amazing for people starting from nowhere. People with no athletic or sport agendas or history. 

My yoga class
I'm in my 50's and I'm the youngest, by far for some, in my village yoga class.

There is high impact, insanely challenging yoga out there! If you're only wanting to get started now, I'd choose a kind of yoga that fits you. This way you won't be put off like I was. Eventually, a friend set me up with some challenging yoga and I started really enjoying it. That's what I want to do to help you, today. I'll share links with FREE yoga lessons according to difficulty and style.

One of my favorite parts about yoga is you don't need to buy anything. Finally! I often don't even use a mat. If you are going to use a mat, buy an all natural one. I mean, the point of yoga is grounding and getting in touch with yourself, your inner self. Sitting on a piece of polyester is not ideal. Get a cork mat with a natural, rubber bottom or just do it on the rug, like I do most of the time.

I'm going to get a little cheeky, here with some of my suggestions. I'm always working on self improvement and one of my things is being judgmental. Sorry! I'll keep working. For instance how the hell can I tell if that dress is going to look good on me when the model is thin as a rail? I can't watch videos with really fat hands, hairy hands, fake long nails or those food videos where the person wears those black gloves. Yuck! I want to do yoga with someone a little bit like myself or how I think I am, anyway.

Currently, my favorite yoga channel is Breathe and Flow. They are a couple and have a sweet variety of yoga for different levels. I really like Flo's lessons the best. Peruse the list and see if it's for you. I'd go for this one if you're not starting from scratch. Even if you are, you could take a look.

Videos from Adrienne are pretty awesome. She's got hundreds of free ones, for all kinds of levels and according to what you feel like at that moment. I love that!

Here's a channel with an older woman and her cat that has an awesome variety. I watched a few minutes of one video and thought the sound quality wasn't great, but overall, I think it looks pretty good. If you're an older person, you might like doing lessons with another older person. Kim Yan Yoga has lessons of all kinds which is great because sometimes you wanna do it before bed or when you're bloated or stressed out and she has videos dedicated to that. A lot of channels do.

Do your research and find the perfect match, just as long as you do. Why not consider taking a walk either long or short in between your yoga days? Even 15 minutes is a nice amount of time to go walking. Just get up and move, often. Even if you start off doing it for just a few minutes. There are a lot of really short yoga sessions. No excuses, right? Instead of doom scrolling for 15 minutes, do 10 minutes of yoga? Or go for a quick walk around the block.

I used to hate walking and now I walk nearly every single day! Start off with short, doable walk and work your way up. That's what I did. I didn't particularly think about nature and how essential it really is for us, but it is. The further we remove ourselves from nature and real food the worse things are. It really is that simple. Do you often feel like we're being pushed one way and pulled another? I sure do! Go with our gut and your heart and remember, the magic starts happening when you think with your heart and feel with your head.

Don'cha love that all of this stuff is free? You don't have to pay a penny to be all the awesome you can be. I may come back and add stuff as I think about it. If you've got some great, healthy and helpful tips for getting over your mental garbage, feel free to share them with us.

I wish the you the very best with your journey to your awesome you. I already know you are awesome, but do you?



Monday, January 19, 2026

Mindfulness is a Big Time Game Changer for Mental Issues Including Anxiety and Depression

Welcome to The Cherry On Top.

As promised, we'll be talking about mindfulness and its unbelievable benefits for health. As I'm typing away, I found myself suppressing a sarcastic grin because many years ago I was one of those people that thought of yoga and nature as wussie crap. I didn't think nature was crap, but I had no idea that the further I pulled myself away from nature and all things natural, the worse things were getting.

nature can cure anything naturally ocurring

After years upon years of continuous research, I've found that nature has a cure for everything. Literally! If it comes from nature then nature has a cure or potion for it. Isn't that simply amazing? So, if you're rolling your eyes, thinking "Yeah, right!" Keep on reading because being mindful isn't just for those suffering mentally, physically or psychologically. It's great for everyone and the sooner you start the better because it takes years to get good at it.

Some of the mega awesome upsides of mindfulness is it's FREE! Whoo hoo! You will start feeling better immediately. I am not kidding! As soon as you start, you will literally begin to feel better. Like right now. Take a deep breath. Close your eyes and smile. Do it one more time. I bet you are still smiling! See how incredibly simple that was?

mindfulness for anxiety

Now, this mindful thing. You have to do it, like all the time. Like always. I know! Some side effects I got from being mindful that I was not expecting was a wonderful feeling of content. I wasn't so darn clumsy. I wasn't falling down stairs, hitting my head all of the time. Before mindfulness, I kept injuring myself over and over and unfortunately, I've always been a kind of "hot head" which is also starting to fizzle out. Shoo!

Ok, so let me give you some guidance on how to start being mindful. You must continually remind yourself throughout the day to be mindful. Hehehe...Keep asking yourself, are you being mindful? As you're reading your book in bed, are you really paying attention? What was the last thing you read? Go back and try again. If your mind starts to wander, just bring it back. Don't beat yourself up. This is one heck of a long process.

If your descending stairs (or going up), pay very, very close attention to everything at that moment. Are you holding the handrail? Are you getting excellent footing on each and every step? Are you talking? Are you holding something? Focus on taking each and every step to perfection. That's what ya have to do all of the time.

When you are emptying out the dishwasher. You carefully, thoughtfully grab several squeaky clean glasses and relish in the fact that your machine cleaned them to perfection as you gently arrange the glasses in the proper place. Observe the dishwasher. What's next? What would be the most efficient way to put all of those dishes away? Let's get a good stance and start stacking those plates, then the salad plates, lift with our legs and strategically lift them into the cupboard. Smile at how clean they are and imagine yourself getting lighter as the work is finishing up. Try to make as little noise as possible. Now go for that silverware. Work on speed and efficiency as you skillfully place those forks, knives and spoons in the designated cubbies of the drawer or basket.

Do not multitask! That's one of the worst things you can do. Usually! It will interfere with you being mindful, often and it more than likely won't get done right, anyway.

You see where I'm getting at? If you find your mind wandering on something other than what you are doing, bring it back and continue. Do this with everything.

I hope you don't find this like beating a dead horse, but I want to give you more examples because I really didn't get it in the beginning and I know this works so great. Let's take this to conversation because I swear, a huge part of today's problems is a failure to communicate. So, you'll get two birds with one stone. We'll amp up those mindfulness skills and learn how to communicate more effectively.

Imagine you're talking with someone. It could be your kid, your boss, partner, the mailman...Are you really listening? What did they just say? Are you making eye contact? Are you giving signals that you are in fact and perhaps even actively listening? How many times do I meet someone new, get introduced and immediately forget their name because I really wasn't listening. I hate that! Don'chu? Make eye contact, nod your head when appropriate, repeat the last thing they said (especially if it was their name) if it works or ask questions or even be honest and ask them to repeat what they've said because you were not paying attention. I started doing this a lot, lately and now I see the whole family does it. Yay!

I saw things change big time when I started using these skills when my boys were toddlers. I didn't just sit and act like I was listening. I'd snatch'm up and set them on lap. I'd look in their eyes, nod or laugh, repeat what they just said and boy oh boy, did they love that. They started talking to me more and more and of course, they were learning how to be a good listener all the while. Another win win! Whoo hoo!

I wanted to write about distractions while trying to sleep or trying to fall asleep. Count backwards from 100 or do the alphabet backwards. (Ya know, I still can't do that!) This doesn't always work for me. I found visualizing the numbers as I count helped a lot. You have to pick a font in order for this to work though. Hehehe...Me, the designer speaking. It took me a few sleepless nights to get the font just right. I also had to go really big. Isn't that crazy? Hehehe...

I'm going to end this on yoga and continue with yoga for the next one. Yoga and meditation will be the next topic. If you can get started than do that. I think what I'll do is link a whole bunch of sources to get you started because yoga is for everyone and I mean everyone. I should take a picture of my yoga class, here in the village. I'm in my 50's and I am the youngest, by far.

Without exaggerating, you can do yoga in bed, when you are injured, if you are hugely obese, sick, if you are a man. Hehehe...I still have to laugh a bit at the whole yoga thing and how involved I've become with it. I still laugh when I get stuck or can't hold as long as the instructor. I get bored as hell when the meditation part is too, long. I yawn a lot, but I keep motoring on and I keep trying to get myself back to center. Even after all of these years.

If you want to start at the beginning of this series, click here and here is the second installation geared also for people who are living with someone that has anxiety.

Hit us up with a comment if you've got some good tips that helped your depression or anxiety and share this blog if you want to help someone.

Thanks for hanging with The Cherry. I hope you're enjoying this opening up and sharing. I've a feeling you can relate to a lot of this. Work on gratitude, mindfulness and start looking around for yoga that is right for you. There are so many free resources and you might find something in your area.

get out in nature to help with anxiety and depression

Feel better and then feel awesome! Love ya! (Yes, I do! Yes, you!) wink wink

Friday, January 9, 2026

Oil Pulling with Coconut Oil to Relieve a Tooth Ache and More

Welcome to The Cherry On Top.

I'm coming in here quick with information on oil pulling. If you're not familiar with the term it's simply swishing coconut oil around your mouth and it's an ancient Ayurvedic practice. You can do this for all kinds of reasons. Freshen your breath, clean out cavities, whiten your teeth and clean out bacteria. Gargling with coconut oil can help with a sore throat as well. Isn't that awesome?

I've been having some discomfort in two of my back teeth, including my gums. I grabbed my huge jar of coconut oil and started swishing around a big ole chunk of the stuff. I did it for at least 10 minutes while I brushed my hair and got ready for bed. One of my teeth stopped hurting immeditely and the other felt much, much better. After just a few minutes?!

I did this for a few days and noticed the tiny grey spot on one of my teeth disappeared.

One of the most important things to remember is to spit in the garbage can. Otherwise, your drain will clog. Very important! My long hair is bad enough! Hehehe...

We've had blistering cold, here in Germany. My lips were a disaster. Chapped and full of blisters. I started putting on something from the pharmacist, but it got worse. I applied coconut oil instead and had immediate relief. The blisters were gone in 3 days.

Coconut oil, organic and cold pressed, is by far one of the most important items to have in your house. You can use it for literally, everything. I buy it in bulk. I brush with my teeth with it, use it in my hair, on my skin. We cook with it and I often put it in my infusions. I can't think of anything besides maybe water that I use more than coconut oil.

diy lotion bars

Here are my lotion bars I just made using, you guessed it, coconut oil, shea butter and bees wax. This stuff is amazing! I've got really bad dry skin at times. These lotion bars keep my skin quenched for days. Nothing has ever worked for me like these.

Make up remover (Try not to get it in your eyes, but don't panic if you do. Close your eyes for a little while, take a nap or go to sleep and you'll wake up fine. I do this often.)

Sun Screen I live in a somewhat colder climate where summers are not too brutal. I'm naturally blonde with what I might have called, fair skin. Since I stopped eating processed junk/food along with seed oils (all of them) and started using coconut oil as sun screen, I don't get burned and I get an amazing lasting tan. Isn't that nuts? There actually is a little bit of UV protection in both coconut oil and olive oil. You may have to apply it often. I put on light weight garments to keep the sun off, once I've had enough exposure.

Lip balm, deodorant, nail growth and nail fungus. Use on minor cuts and burns, too. I use it on my hands and really rub it into my nails as well. They look so great and shiny which is ideal because I just recently read how crazy toxic nail polish is. So, I won't be using that any more.

If this kind of thing floats your boat then here's another great item from grandma's cabinet.

Years ago, I wrote about the amazing benefits of apple cider vinegar. Wow! It's nearly as awesome as coconut oil. I've grown to love it even more. I'm even make it myself now that I learned how crazy easy it is and nearly free. Seriously?! I used to add a teaspoon of ACV to a small glass of water, but now I just drink the teaspoon because I make awesome ACV. I've found the most perfect apples for it. The apples just so happen to grow on a public lot around the corner from my house. The tree is pretty old and the apples are small and more yellow than read. They are crazy, crazy sweet and I harvest them from the ground, late in the season. It's so sweet and delicious, I barely taste the vinegar.

Did you know that ACV is just the parts of the apple you don't eat and water? I know, right?! So, when I'm making apple sauce, apple oatmeal or apple butter, I take some of the skin and core and add them to my huge pot of fermented apples that I keep under the sink. I cover my fermentation projects (I'm up to so many, lately. More of that, later.) with tea filters and a rubber band. I even grew a gorgeous mother. Eek! I've been doing this for years and you should, too. I just recycle large glass jars from mayo, pickles and stuff like that. Our local butcher gives them away at times. That's a major score.

Add your apple leftovers to a jar. Not the brown yucky stuff. I leave out the the stems and seeds, too. Pour water over the top and put it in a warm, dark place for several weeks. How long depends on how tangy you want it. I just leave mine permanently and add and replenish when necessary. When the fruit gets mushy, usually. Watch out for green, hairy molds. A bit of white residue is ok. That's more than probably yeast. If ya feel uncomfortable, just throw it the heck out. Try to keep your fruit submerged under the water and don't forget to put something breathable over the top. A paper towel and rubber band would do, too.

Again, do your research and check this other old blog where I talk about using ACV and it's benefits. I noticed I got a bit of an energy kick when I took it in the morning. See if it works for you, too.

Look at this enormous apple we got this harvest. One those tiny trees!

If I've got an iffy looking or tasting batch of ACV, I use it to clean.

We've got a tiny yard, but take a look down our driveway. It's full of food in the form of 5 fruit trees, 3 blueberry bushes, goji and the under growth is all herbs, strawberries and more. I throw our dishwater here so pumpkins, tomatoes and somehow, miraculously a fig tree is now growing, too. 

I'd love to include links to the place I learned about the coconut oil pulling trick, but just mentioning his name will flag my blog. I blogged about autism and our terrible experience after our youngest got a particular medical intervention that you or your kid probably got, too and my blog pretty much disappeared after that. I didn't even say anything bad or controversial, but that's just the way the world is swinging these days. The truth is something we are not allowed to know.

Probably why you may not have heard about the amazing benefits of natural things like herbs, teas, coconut oil, apple cider vinegar, castor oil and more of your grandma's treatments that really worked. Things that more than probably surround your home. I hope to help you out with that. As long as the internet police allow it.

I'll show off more about those lotion bars and much more DIY stuff that's pure, natural, organic and good for ya.

Enjoy your apple cider vinegar adventures and don't forget that coconut oil, too!

Thursday, January 1, 2026

What The Heck is a Mispel and What Can You Do With Them

Welcome to The Cherry On Top.

Have you been foraging this fall for food finds? I'm seeing a lot of pumpkins out in front yards either for sale or for free. There are still a few nuts to be found. The apples and pears are just about all rotten or picked by the birds. If you also live in a northern, chilly climate you may find other edible treasure out there.

We've got a very interesting tree that grows throughout our village and is our village's name sake. It is called a mispel (in Flemish). Mespilus germanica is the latin name. I'm not sure if there is an American or English language equivalent. The mispel is really unique in so many ways.

The only recipes I could find were a liquor and jelly. Boo! Let's change that!

The stature is really more bushy than it is tree like. I wouldn't say it is a pretty tree. The leaves are long and fingerlike. One of the best things about the mispel is that the fruit is ready when most other food is long gone. I picked a huge bucket of mispels and there were hardly any  insects on them. Only an adorable lady bug and another beetle critter that was all black with a few yellow spots.


mispel fruit

I didn't think to get a picture of the tree. I'll pop out and get one or two for ya. (There were no leaves! I'll take one, later.) 

Above, you can see the fruit. The interesting part is you have to wait until the fruit is rotten. I know, right?! No wonder no one wants this tree in their yard. That might not be entirely true for every use, but it the lore in the village. So, I went with it. The oddity of it was fascinating.

If you're wanting to try one of these, I've got a few tips from my experience. I went for ones that were either on the ground or if they were on the tree, I chose the ones that were a bit squishy. Below, you can see the progression of rot. Each stage tastes different. That lighter green is really, really hard and the one dark one on the end is totally mushy inside and that's what ya want.

mispel fruit

In the recipes I read, they used another process that I'm not at all crazy about and that's putting the fruit through a food mill. For me, that's totally ugh. I used it once to make current jam because of all of the little seeds and stems. I thought it was a ton of work and I hardly had anything left at the end to work with.

My process is mega simple, but it is tedious. You only need a small, sharp knife. I used a tiny cutting board and had a few containers for the good stuff and for all of the crap. By crap I mean the outer skin and the FIVE HUGE pits inside. It doesn't leave you with all of that much "meat", if ya know what I mean.

It was a lot of work, but I was just so curious. It took me about one minute per piece of fruit. I put on some tunes and heated up a lovely cup of herbal tea to make the process more tolerable. I also sat on a stool half way through the process and I did one large pot over two days. (About an hour each day.)

The size of the fruit is roughly the size of a plum or maybe a lime. The consistency is a bit like a fig, in my opinion. The taste...that's a tough one to explain. It is totally unique! Hehehe...The closest thing I can think of is indeed, an apple, but it's also a touch sour or maybe pungent?

what to make with mispels
Cut the fruit in half. Remove the 5 large seeds.

My goodness! I hope you are not put off yet. My explanation sounds nearly dreadful. So, I guess I better keep moving on and get to the awesome part. 

forgotten fruit
Scrape the meat off the seeds if there is some. Squish out the meat and remove with the knife.

You can see the size of my pot. It holds roughly, 2 full cups of the fruit. My cake was beyond delicious.

mispel cake

There's a look at the cake. I also used the mispel mush in oatmeal along with some fresh apple. I think the fruit is mega versatile. I'd use it with just about any other non citrus fruit. A banana might balance out the flavor perfectly. I'll let ya know, soon.

Freezing them is also in the near future. If I can get around to preparing the fruit, again before it actually does rot. I only came across one piece of fruit that really was rotten. It was black and most unappetizing. Taste the flesh to see if it's just right? You can just eat it right off of the tree, apparently. Of course, you must discard the skin and seed.

fruit cake

I recently made the most delicious wine mountain peach butter and I plan on using what I've got left of the mispel flesh for another tiny batch of mispel butter. Here's a recipe similar to the peach butter I made that you could use for your mispels. Use mispels in yogurt, smoothies, pancakes, on toast with some cinnamon...

Pairing it up with cinnamon is perfect. I'm thinking pumpkin would be a great combination as well. How about sweetening it with maple syrup? Mmmmm....I used honey, cinnamon, apple and mispel for my oatmeal and if you're not a Cherry groupie you may not know that I sauté my fruit in butter when I make oatmeal. Next time, raisins or dried cranberries in there?

For the cake, I used a recipe for oatmeal apple cake and just switched out the 1 1/2 of cups of apple with the mispel mush. I added walnuts that I also collected right next to the mispel tree.

What are you baking this winter? Anything unique as mispel cake?

Thanks for hanging with The Cherry.

Happy baking!
















 

Some Tips on Helping People with Anxiety

Welcome to The Cherry On Top.

Last year, I started a series on anxiety. The first installation was about my personal experience with anxiety. How it all started. How I diagnosed myself. My experience with antidepressants and some of my thoughts on a possible connection with depression.

This post, we'll focus on how you can help others with anxiety or what you can ask of others if you are suffering from anxiety. I realize that not everyone will have the same experience and we all have different ways of dealing with issues. Again, I'm not a doctor nor a psychologist. These are just suggestions.

One of the biggest issues was leaving the house. In the previous edition, I mentioned how difficult this was. I found myself taking a lot of deep breaths because breathing was taxing. I felt flush and I felt like I could vomit at any moment. Sadly, my husband had zero sympathy for me and would not let me get out of going out, no matter what. A part of me thought it might get better while I was out, but it rarely did. It just wore me out, totally. It was so embarrassing! Sitting there for hours, quietly taking deep breaths and trying not to pass out or puke while people look at you kind of strange and continually ask if you're ok. Ugh!

I'm a bit torn suggesting to just stay home because I know in the case of depression, staying home can be the worse thing you should do. I suppose staying home wouldn't really fix anything either and I certainly wouldn't not leave the house for months at a time. You could try to stay home if it really isn't important that you go out. If it's your job, then that could be a whole other story. If you find yourself anxious before work, you may have stumbled on to your trigger.

If you're reading this, hoping to find some ways you can help someone you know and or love with anxiety, I suggest you try to always be calm. Try to keep a lid on your intensity. Don't tease too much or sneak up on your friend, family or partner. Consider your partner, etc and the things that stress them out. For example, driving. Drive how you think they would drive. (I know that might be tough!)This was huge for me. Slow down. Don't drive aggressive if possible and keep an eye out for stressful body language. Closed eyes, white knuckles, gripping handrails, etc.

If you're feeling frustrated by their anxiety, leave the room. Your reaction could make things worse. Try to be patient. I often tried reminding myself that my thoughts were ridiculous. That nothing I ever imagined actually came into fruition, but that never helped. I wouldn't beat them over the head with that one, but a calm reminder every now and then may help.

Get comfortable with being patient because this takes a long time to get over. You won't be able to do it for them. They have to do it. Remind them you're there to help when you can and be strong in your conviction that they will get better. If you see any improvement, make sure you tell them. Positive reinforcement is a wonderful tool.

Keep your schedule open whenever possible. Don't plan too many things. Try staying home more if your home is a relaxing place. If it isn't, see what you can do to change that. Maybe you could clean up a little more around the house, cook more often, do some shopping, spread the work with others even the kids. Encourage them to go for a walk, do some yoga and meditation. Get out in nature whenever possible and see how they do? Think of things you know they love to do and be mindful of the kind of tv you watch and music you listen to. Are the shows stressful? Is the music intense?

Nature is a wonderful healer.
No matter what, get outside and take a deep breath. Even if it's just a few minutes and build up.

You won't be able to do the hard part for them, but perhaps you can remind them what part that is and that's what we'll get into for the next edition. Practicing mindfulness is the answer. It could take years until the results start ushering in, but once they do, you'll never go back.

Distractions helped me out, big time. Stay busy! I'm talking very, very busy. As soon as you feel yourself drifting into another cycle of negative thoughts, stop. You may even want to start doing something physical to help you stop, like snapping your fingers or if no one is around, shout stop! I used to act like I was pushing something big and heavy as if I were physically pushing away the bad thoughts.

If you have to stop yourself a million times in five minutes, that's ok and normal. Stop that train when it goes off of the rails and put yourself back on the right track. Pay close attention to everything you do as a means to keep your mind focused. That's what mindfulness is and we'll dive deep next time on this.

The worst thing you can do it just lie around. Get up and get busy!

Distractions help. If I was lying in bed, wanting death to take over, I'd start doing complex movements like swing my arms one way and try to swing my legs another way. Try making circles in a rightward motion with one leg and a leftward motion with the other. Complexities like that will take all the focus you've got!

Try out this thing called Emotional Freedom Tapping. It's another way to distract yourself. It didn't help me a darn bit, but it might help you. There are a lot of videos out there on it. Here's a source that you could use to get you started or at see what it's all about. It's a super easy way to get kick started.

Praying is awesome! Recite poetry, read a book and force yourself to focus by continuing to stop and go back if your mind starts wandering, again. Practice gratitude. Make a list of all the things you're grateful for. Do it before you go to bed and read it when you wake up. I often stop myself from "the thoughts" and start listing all of the things I'm grateful for and smile even if I really don't feel like it.

You've got a lot to start doing. 

- Find those triggers and see what you can do minimize or delete them.

- Keep an open schedule if possible.

- Stay busy.

- Try EFT.

- Keep away distractions by using distractions.

- Practice gratitude.

If you're wanting to help someone with anxiety:

- be patient (it could take a long time)

- stay calm

- stay away from stressful tv/music/situations/conversations when possible

- try fun or engaging distractions

- help reduce stress at home or work

- encourage any kind of positive behavior where you can (Don't give into negative or damaging behavior. You're a person, too and that won't help anyone, anyway.)

Come back and read more about mindfulness. It's a game changer and not just for those wanting to ditch anxiety or depression.

I hope you're feeling better already!



Monday, December 1, 2025

The Last Free Template for 2025 is Waiting for You Along with Beautiful Scrapbook Pages for Inspiration

Welcome to The Cherry On Top.

Here's the last template for 2025. How did you like this year's free template pack? Would you like to have 12 more free templates, next year? If so, you'll have to pop over to the group and add your pretty pages to the album and when we reach 20 pages, it will unlock next year's template pack. If you're not on FB, leave your page in the comments or send them to me in an e-mail.

free template for December

Kait always designs the most gorgeous pages. I love these colors and what a great idea to put the text in a circular pattern. Fun font, too!

free scrapbooking templates

Templates are ideal if you've not a lot of time to scrap or maybe you're lacking in the talent department? Perhaps ya don't even know where to start? Templates are the perfect springboard. Add some texture with "effects", grab a few elements with like colors, pop in your pic and you've scrapped.

scrapbooking page inspiration

The loveliest pages use repetition, eye catching colors, contrast, texture, depth and balance. Learn how to scrapbook through this blog. There's over a decade of tips, tricks and thousands of lovely pages and freebies.

free templates for scrapbooking

I quickly scrapbooked this page using free goodies from the blog. Scroll through and grab what you can, while you can. Don't forget! I'm taking down the links to this year's free templates after a couple of months. The first few are gone, but don't fret. The templates can be found in my shop for less than a cup of coffee.

free scrapbooking products

Here's a look at the free templates from this year. Please share the pages you make with them? I'd love to see what you do and help me make this blog more interactive. I often feel like I'm just doing all of this for myself. I appreciate your comments.

template pack 2025

If you missed out on some of the free templates, here's the pack of templates from the shop.

winter templates

If you're in the mood to start scrapbooking the upcoming holiday, check out what we've got in the shop.

christmas scrapbooking pages

holiday scrapbooking

I'll be blogging about all of kinds of Cherry-Licious topics in the near future. Here's a peek at what's to come.

all about orchids

Orchids!

decorating a huge picture window

I love going crazy in our enormous picture window. I'll be sharing all kinds of decorating ideas. I can't find anything at all on the internet or Pinterest. So, I'll be filling a gaping hole.

oatmeal recipes

I've started a book for oatmeal recipes. I'll be sharing some excerpts.

ideas for fresh peaches

I had thousands of peaches and plums this year and scoured the internet with what to do with them. I'll share the list I manufactured and some of my own recipes as well as ideas on what to do with all of the fruit you don't intend on using.

gift ideas for the BBQ master

Coming soon will be a few blogs on gift giving. I think I want to start with grilling gift ideas. Since we've got years of expertise in this department. Stay tuned!

I hope you've had a super year and I look forward to seeing you next year. If there's something you'd like to see on the blog, you can always ask. Shoot me a mail.